Wednesday, November 9, 2011

Birthday Weekend

Last fall, I attempted to hike the Sugarloaf Trail. I got off the train in the right place and headed in the right direction, but failed to find the trail head. While I enjoyed a pleasant few hours wandering back and forth along the Hudson River and admiring West Point on the opposite bank, I was disappointed that the 7-mile loop I'd planned did not come to fruition. This year, I set off on the morning of my birthday into a clear, chilly day with a set of maps and an engineer, sure that my problems were over. Things got off to a poor start when we missed the train we should have taken by minutes and had to wait an hour for the next one, though we used the time well with a quick trip to the library in Bryant Park, which Ed had never been into. Our late start meant that we did not have enough time to do the whole hike, nor even half of it, because we had to be back in the city in time to prepare for my party that evening. Still, we found the trail head and got to hike at least part of the way, and it was lovely to walk through crunchy  leaves and admire the changing leaves, cool fungi, and views. 

A hilltop "castle" that was off-limits to the public, but still very nice to look at from afar.
With old friends from Vanderbilt
Back in New York, we navigated a shopping cart through the most crowded grocery store in the world, then headed back to Ed's apartment, where he started cleaning and I started cooking. I whipped up a dill dip, then put together a rather involved layered Mediterranean dip my mom is famous for, then cleaned myself up just in time to greet my friend Michael, who was the first to arrive. I chatted with guests as they showed up while frantically making a baked brie, and Ed contributed some tomato slices topped with mozzarella and basil. The guest list was pretty diverse, and included friends from elementary school, college, Japan, and all over New York! The party was definitely a success, though not everything went quite as planned. For one thing, I asked everyone to bring either a snack/appetizer or a beverage. I think every single person with the exception of one (who contributed a bucket of delicious popcorn) brought a bottle of wine, which almost no one ended up drinking! Most of the crew stuck to cocktails, and few people made a few beer runs, which was fine with me. Ed had bought all the ingredients for making Moscow Mules - his are delicious - but by the time the simple syrup was ready, decided they were too much work. Few things spilled though, just about every bite of every snack was eaten, and we had a great time. After everyone went home, I finally had time to open gifts from my parents and grandparents, and to reply to the texts I'd been getting all day from friends and family.

I had hoped to watch part of the marathon on Sunday, but I got to the race course so late that the only people left were scattered wheelchair competitors. Whoops. Well, on the day after my birthday, I think I can be excused sleeping in a bit. It was odd to watch competitors on the sidewalks and subway throughout the rest of the day and think that next year, I'd be one of them! Instead of watching the race, Ed and I walked through Central Park for a while. It was a beautiful day, replete with typical, awesome New York sights, like a husky pulling his owner on roller blades at a full sprint. Later, we went to see Moneyball, a movie I wholeheartedly recommend, and capped the weekend off with dinner in Union Square. Altogether, a fantastic weekend. While I'm not wild about the prospect of getting older, ringing in birthdays like this make the whole thing easier to take.


Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Fit to Be (Black) Tied - Part 2

Hitting on Ramses.
The annual Apollo Circle Benefit took place just a few days before my birthday, and it was a great way to start my birthday weekend! To be in the Apollo Circle, one must be between the ages of 21 and 39 and donate a certain amount of money to the Metropolitan Museum each year. Ed is a member, and so was contacted about buying tickets to this year's benefit, but apparently even non-members can buy a ticket for this event as long as they fall into the right age range. Of course it is always fun to dress up, and I had never danced and drunk cocktails surrounded by ancient artifacts before, so when Ed asked me if I was interested in going, it wasn't a hard decision.

When we arrived on Thursday night, we were ushered in through the main doors of the museum. As we walked through the wing that houses artifacts from ancient Egypt, there was someone stationed every 40 or 50 feet to point us in the right direction. Initially, I thought this was very accommodating, as it is a large museum and tough to navigate, though I realized as the evening went on that having lots of hands on deck is necessary when you put a bunch of young people into a museum containing both priceless treasures and an open bar.

Apologies for the poor picture quality. It was dark.
The main event was in a room with portions of Egyptian temples lit in red (and, of course, roped off). Scenes from movies like Cat on a Hot Tin Roof and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes were projected silently on one of the walls to go with the theme of the night, which had something to do with the pop art of Andy Warhol, though I didn't notice the theme anywhere else. There was a dance floor which was a giant mirror - not a good idea for those of us in short dresses until it got dirty and scuffed by dancers - and several bars with scanty hors d'oeuvres and plentiful bottles. My beverage of choice for the evening was champagne mixed with fruit compote. I tried both blueberry and peach, and liked peach more, though I was less enamored of it when an unapologetic girl next to me knocked my elbow, causing me to dump the contents of my glass down my front and onto the sleeves of two people near me. I did the best I could to dab it out of my hair and dress and switched to vodka and soda.

Despite the champagne bath, which Ed kindly said made me smell pleasantly of peaches, we had a nice time.  Several of his friends met us there, and we chatted, danced, and did a lot of people-watching. Apparently single girls in the city will do just about anything short of selling a kidney to buy a ticket to this event in hopes of meeting wealthy men. Dispersed among the roving bands of unescorted ladies, there were indeed a lot of men who appeared to be going stag. In most cases, however, their lone wolf status was not surprising. Most were short and sweetly dorky looking. When Ed and I first arrived, we watched a very short, balding man who looked like he was toeing the upper line of the age limit chatting happily to a tall, blonde bombshell who looked to be in her mid-20s. She stood on the floor and he stood on a step in front of her, making him almost eye-level for her. Throughout the evening, we caught glimpses of him, each time talking to a different woman. They seemed friendly enough and he was beaming, but I don't think fortune was favoring him too much.

As the party-goers continued to visit the bar, things started to feel a lot like a standard club. Sure, the surroundings were incredible and the clothing posh, but people were staggering around and dancing to the hip-hop soundtrack just the way they would at the bar where I used to check coats. I had expected murmured conversations about sophisticated topics over chamber music, but this turned out to be pretty far from reality. When we were about 15 minutes from the end of the event, Ed and I said our goodbyes and went to an all-night restaurant where I had macaroni and cheese.

Pre-champagne debacle
Because my boss was out of the office last week, I had made arrangements to work from home on Friday, which turned out to be a good thing as I wasn't in bed until sometime after 2:00 A.M. I woke late the next morning and spent the day working on my couch in my pajamas. My birthday weekend was off to a great start! More on that in my next post.

Thursday, November 3, 2011

Out With the (Sigh) Old

With a birthday fast approaching, I'm sensitive to terminology like "old" and "outdated." I mean, age happens, and no amount of effort is going to allow one to keep up with the younger generation. Time batters, damages, and slows performance, while the newbies are sleek, fast, and sophisticated. Of course I'm not talking about myself, here. (I'm still quite a spring chicken, right? Right?!) I refer to my long-serving, faithful, hopelessly inefficient BlackBerry.

Yes friends, I am the proud owner of an iPhone 4S. This thing is so cool I don't even know where to begin. It's lightning fast. It has a great system for navigation. I can control the music on my computer from the other side of my apartment with my phone. It's gorgeous. Possibly the coolest feature, however, is Siri, the voice activation system. Now Siri isn't perfect and doesn't always know what I'm after. But I can press a button and give a command ("call Mom, mobile," or "text Dave," or "play 'Pink Floyd'") and my wish is her command. Not only this, I can dictate web searches simply by asking a question ("Is there a Banana Republic in this neighborhood?" or "What temperature should I set my oven to roast carrots?") and a Google search will be launched without my having to type a thing. Best of all, I can dictate text messages. Instead of typing, I just say what I want it to type, give the resulting words a quick proofread (a friend once dictated "I'm having brunch with Ed" to his phone, did not proofread, and ending up sending "I'm having brunch with an infant") and hit "send." The only slightly quirky thing about this is that I have to dictate punctuation if I want any. Lately, I've been saying things like, "Yes comma I know it will be crowded comma but that's the earliest I can possibly get there exclamation point," and "What question mark I thought you hadn't talked to her yet period." Still, small price to pay, as this is much faster and easier than typing.

There are obviously a lot of other cool features I could gush about, but this transition hasn't been entirely easy. I have found a company that will buy my BlackBerry and either refurbish it and donate it to a good cause or recycle its parts if it can't be reused. I mean, there is literally nothing to lose here. They will even send me free, customized instructions for wiping all my data permanently from my old phone before I send it in. And yet... It's still hard to let go. I mean, we've been together a long time. We've kind of gotten used to each other. I saved its life once after it was doused in sugary tea (which was, admittedly, totally my fault). Things between us didn't work out - if I'm being honest with myself, I knew it was a doomed relationship from the start - but I learned a lot. In a weird way, I'll miss the grainy pictures I used to take with its camera, and the way the trackball used to stick. It seemed to fit more solidly in my hand, somehow, than its younger, perkier replacement. I'm actually still using it as an alarm clock so it won't feel left out when it's the iPhone I reach for again and again. I know I'm stringing it along by prolonging this. It's only fair that I make a clean break and let it go free so it can find someone else to have a meaningful connection with. Funny that I couldn't wait to replace it, and now I can't stand to see it go. 

Breaking up is hard to do.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

Trick or Treat, yo.

This time of year has always made me wonder how kids in New York cope on Halloween. Obviously my childhood memories of walking up damp sidewalks through elaborately decorated yards to ring doorbells will not be theirs. I see fliers for parties, and Ed mentioned that he had the option to add his name to a list of apartments accepting trick-or-treaters at his apartment, but my apartment had no such list. Would the kids there be able to trick or treat at all? How would they get past doormen or through locked exterior doors? What if no one in their building was home, or willing to distribute candy to hordes of children?

I got my answer yesterday while walking home along Broadway. Kids swarmed the street with their parents. I had to return a pair of earrings, and I was preceded into the small boutique by a woman escorting Spiderman and a princess. "Are you guys doing candy?" she asked a saleswoman near the front. "Sorry, we're out," the woman replied, and the mother and her kids retreated.

Back on the sidewalk a few minutes later, I saw that this process was being repeated (with better success) up and down the street as far as I could see. Families were weaving in and out of restaurants, shoe stores, and hardware suppliers. More surprising, I noted that the employees were beaming as the youngsters helped themselves to pieces of candy. This is a city in which the apparent goal of most staff is to do as little as possible. They are seriously irked when made to fulfill their basic duties. They often heave heavy sighs as I timidly lay items on the counter so that I will fully understand how inconvenient they find my business. Yet here they were, merrily greeting non-paying visitors at the doors to their establishments and handing out free candy. It all seemed a bit backwards to me, but I'm certainly not complaining. Moments that remind me of the humanity behind those icy exteriors are fleeting, but sweet.

Monday, October 31, 2011

Walking in a Spooky Wonderland

Shortly after this, the snow began to stick.
Apparently the weather took a cue from the Christmas merchandise that has been appearing in stores already and sent us some serious snow this weekend, for which few people, yours truly included, were prepared. I am happy to say that things have warmed up since and are supposed to be very pleasant this week, but Saturday was absolutely awful.  I had a pleasant day holed up my my cozy apartment with tea, but I very much regretted my costume choice when it was time to get dressed and head out for the evenings festivities. Not that I had a whole lot of choice: When your boyfriend brings you back an authentic belly dancer's costume from Turkey, you can't say no, even if you want to (which I didn't - it was spangly and glamorous). So I dressed in a skimpy, jingly skirt and top, then wrapped myself in scarves, a hat, and my warmest coat, tugged on boots and gloves, and stepped out into the blizzard.

Happily, Ed and I had decided to celebrate Halloween with Ed's friend Brad, who lives in a very fun neighborhood replete with lots of bars. Very little traipsing around would be required. I picked up Ed at his apartment, walked with him to Brad's, then spent 20 minutes warming up there before venturing outside and down the block. We hopped from place to place for a while, then set up shop in what turned out to be a very fun lesbian bar. Ed was dressed as Doc Brown from the Back to the Future movies. He had a stopwatch and a wild wig (which was actually supposed to go with a Marilyn Monroe costume) and had drawn radiation symbols on a painter's coverall and the backs of two rubber dishwashing gloves. Brad dressed as Marty McFly, also from the movies, though he missed the mark somewhat because he refused to shave. At this particular bar, my costume was the most popular of the three.



It turned out to be a mellow, very fun evening. I was chilly as we went from place to place, but generally ok once we were inside, though I think I'd have been in trouble without the flesh-colored stretch pants I picked up on a whim the day before. Next year, however, I am considering saving all costuming decisions for the morning of Halloween so that I can plan appropriately for the weather.

Friday, October 28, 2011

Fit to Be (Black) Tied - Part 1

Last night I attended the first of two black tie events I'll attend in as many weeks. This one, an awards dinner for the World Monument Fund, was held at the Plaza Hotel. The WMF is an organization that collects money and uses it to arrange for the preservation of important cultural monuments around the world. They also organize trips, lead by historians and architects, designed to expose people to some of the incredible buildings and works of art in need of protection and reconstruction. Ed's grandmother get involved in the organization in the late 1980's. Her first trip was to Cambodia immediately after the Khmer Rouge toppled. Ed described for me a photograph of his Texan grandmother standing in front of a temple, sharply dressed, elegantly coiffed, and closely followed by a tiny Cambodian personal bodyguard holding a machine gun. Everyone on the trip was required to have an armed escort back then. Far from being deterred, she maintained involvement in the WMF, which Ed's mother has taken over. Ed's been on three trips with them (China, Cambodia, and Turkey) and he says that they're great but exhausting. An expert, usually a professor or historian, accompanies them throughout the trip, giving lectures and leading them through various important sites. 
The Grand Ballroom where we had dinner. It was too dark to get a good picture, so this one is from a website. We had long tables instead of small, round ones, and there were screens set up on either side of a stage at the front of the room where we watched film clips and slideshows during dinner and the presentations.
Ed's mother provided our very expensive tickets for last night's event. She told Ed it would be a good networking opportunity. First on the agenda was a cocktail hour, where we chatted with the president of Tiffany and Co.'s outreach programming and her husband, an international journalist. Out of the corner of my eye, I kept an eye on the crowd. The room was slowly filling with women in furs and floor-length gowns and men in tuxedos. It was all very glamorous. We were told that the former secretary of the UN was wandering around somewhere, and Bill Cunningham, eminent fashion photographer for The New York Times, was darted in and out of groups of people taking pictures. Ed had predicted that we'd be the youngest people in the room. I kept spotting people who looked to be about our age, but as the evening progressed, it became clear that they were all either photographers or WMF employees. 
World Monuments Fund
Marcela Pérez de Cuéllar




Dinner in the Grand Ballroom followed. The room was absolutely opulent. The Watch Award was given while we ate our salads - artful piles of beets and green beans garnished with a few olives and some sort of leafy thing. Its purpose is to honor someone remarkable for their "individual preservation advocacy and activism." Marcela Pérez de Cuéllar was the recipient. She is the former first lady of Peru and is married to the former UN secretary (which explains his presence at the cocktail hour). She was very graceful and classy.




Dinner followed. Having noted that the main course was to be beef, I flagged down a waiter, who attentively listened to my concerns and gravely told me that I needn't worry because he was going to be certain to take care of it. I got a huge piece of salmon with some sort of cabbage on the side, while everyone else cut into succulent-looking pieces of steak, a mushroom medley, and what looked like a layered piece of puff pastry. We were seated next to the head of the South American WMF division, a tiny, very nice Peruvian woman with a degree from Columbia in preservation architecture who spent the dinner trying to sell us on a trip to Peru. We talked about Africa and some of Ed's travels, as well. 


Mr. and Mrs. Lauder
The Hadrian Award was presented over dessert - pieces of a chocolate torte with raspberry puree. It recognises "international leaders who have advanced the understanding, appreciation, and preservation of the world’s art and architecture." Ronald and Jo Carole Lauder - Ronald is Estee Lauder's son - were the recipients. They were introduced by Alma Powell, otherwise known as Mrs. Colin Powell, apparently an old friend of theirs. They each gave speeches and we watched a brief film about their accomplishments. Then suddenly everything was over, so Ed and I crowded into the coat room, then an ornate elevator, and went to the after party. It was held at a Peruvian restaurant called La Mar, which, we were told, has fantastic ceviche. We tried to order martinis but were handed sour, frothy Peruvian cocktails instead. There were a few representatives from the dinner at the restaurant, but mostly it was a younger crowd. After some obligatory mingling, we decided to call it a night.


It was an interesting and enjoyable evening. I have certainly never before had the chance to rub elbows with so many of New York's elite, and in the Grand Ballroom of the Plaza no less. And of course it is always fun to get dressed up. I was sorry that we didn't get to meet more people because of our table assignments for dinner, but I'm not sure what I would have found to talk about with most of the crowd anyway. Next Thursday, Ed and I are going to a formal event at the Metropolitan Museum. A friend of his is coming with a date, so already we know more people going into it than we did for the WMF gala, and it should be a younger crowd in general. Aside from that, there's something enormously appealing about getting donning formal wear and sipping cocktails in a museum.






Thursday, October 27, 2011

Old Favorites and New Additions

My orgy of author talks is almost over - I have only one more, a reading by Jennifer Egan and Jeffrey Eugenides left - and there were some surprises along the way. I bought tickets to see Michael Ondaatje and Geraldine Brooks, and it just so happened that each was paired with another author with whom I was unfamiliar. I enjoyed both new authors immensely, and as a result have added yet more books to my ever-growing To-Read list. Ah well, there are worse fates.

I saw Michael Ondaatje and Ann Enright first. I like Ondaatje very much, though he generally makes me feel rather guilty. His books, the most famous of which is The English Patient, are sumptuous but require just about undivided attention to really appreciate. These days, I read on the crowded subway, swaying buses, and public benches, and while I was able to relish the ravishing, symbolic imagery at the end of Divisadero, I know I missed a lot leading up to it. Ondaatje has wild, white hair that sticks up in clumps above a neat white beard. He wore a tweed suit over a light blue shirt with no tie, and donned a pair of glasses to read from The Cat's Table, a partially autobiographical book he has just published. (He noted that, in contrast with the main character's vivid account of a long voyage, he recalls only playing ping pong when he made the same voyage as a boy.) Ondaatje was a splendid reader, largely because of his sonorous, lightly accented voice, and the audience sat stock still as he spoke, stirring only between readings. His affect was a bit flat, however, and I had no more sense of his personality as he left the stage than I did when he walked onto it.

Ann Enright, on the other hand, who preceded Ondaatje, is someone I'd like to invite over for a cup of tea. Enright won a Man Booker Prize for The Gathering. She wore a severe black dress, accented by a glint of gold around her neck, and though her voice was tough, she twinkled with the kind of black humor I've come to expect and enjoy from the Irish. She read two chapters from her new Forgotten Waltz, standing on one foot at times and balancing on the heel of the other sensible black pump. During the Q & A that followed the readings, she breezily declared that a character's likability was not something that bothered her much, and I believe it. She seems quite comfortable in her own skin.

Geraldine BrooksI had the thrill of seeing Geraldine Brooks, one of my all-time favorites, not once but twice. At Symphony Space, she spoke about making choices for the 2011 collection of Best American Short Stories, of which she was this year's editor. (Each year, a different "celebrity" author is chosen to select the 20 best short stories of the year.) This was one of the best literary events I've attended. Brooks talked about the physical longing she felt as she received packets of short stories to review, stating that literature should always make you feel as though you can't wait another instant to dive in. Three actors read stories from the collection, and they were, of course, superb. I got to see her again at the 92nd Street Y two weeks later, where she focused on her own work. Brooks was introduced by a spunky foreign correspondent for NPR named Jacki Lydon. She and Brooks became friends through a series of experiences working as journalists in the kinds of countries most people pointedly avoid. Ed, having heard her on the radio for years, commented that it was nice to put a face with a voice. She is short, with a dyed, exuberant bob, and introduced Brooks in a voice brimming with drama. I found myself liking her very much. Brooks, in contrast, was soft-spoken. She said she wasn't very good at reading, that she'd rather just "blather on," and at first I didn't much care for her reading style, to be honest. But it grew on me as she went, probably in part because I was, as I always am with her work, totally sucked into the story within the first few sentences. I'm aching to start reading her latest, Caleb's Crossing, though I'm reluctant to read my own signed copy because I want to keep it pristine, and the wait list at the library is long.

I knew little about Alan Hollinghurst, and decided not to read any of his books after learning a bit about them. The descriptions failed to grab me, somehow. Like Enright, however, I'm far more interested in him now that I've heard him read. He is tall and thin, with the kind of sophisticated accent you get from attending all the right schools and moving in all the right social circles in London. As a gay man, he writes about gay protagonists, so his work, while lauded by critics, appeals mostly to a niche market. Still, he won a Man Booker Prize for The Line of Beauty. He read to us from The Stranger's Child, and to my surprise I found myself swept away in the narrative. I've decided to put him on my list as well, though I'm not sure which title I'll look for first.

The Q & A afterwards was, as it almost always is, fascinating. Brooks said she imbues her work with "the heat of the past" by spending a great deal of time trying to use the kind of language people would actually have used to name and describe things, and since her books are mostly told in first person, this requires quite a bit of research, I imagine. Hollinghurst says that his secret is treating the past as if it were the present, and allowing his characters' emotions and personal dramas to be just as valid as those of people today. Brooks said she does not "entertain writer's block" and that she writes every single day, even when it feels like hefting huge stones. She is full of ideas for additional books, though - she is the type who is interested in everything - and she likened trying to choose one to being an air traffic controller at La Guardia trying to decide which of the circling planes to flag down. Hollinghurst, eyeing her a bit suspiciously, sardonically countered that for him, it is more often like scanning a starkly empty horizon.
Signed books from Ondaatje and Brooks
The weather today is gloomy and wet. While I hate to see summer go, it's pleasant to think about a winter spent in my cozy apartment with one of the many, many books I keep adding to my to-read list, which, if I keep attending these sorts of events, I will surely never live long enough to see the end of. I am thrilled to have this problem.